Sunday, June 14, 2009

Beyond the Bike - Fundraiser

Please join us as we raise both money and awareness for widows in Afghanistan.

Beyond the Bike
Date: Saturday, September 12th
Time: 9:00 am
Distance: 100K (62 miles)
Start & Finish: 38 Ellicott Street Needham, MA
Fundraising commitment: $500 minimum ($1000 recommended)
Questions: Call (781) 465-6464 or email
info@beyondthe11th.org

Beyond the Bike is specifically raising money for construction of the Dragon Valley Women's Community Center in Bamyan, Afghanistan.
This center will include:
* laundry facilities
* shower room with a latrine
* tea room/lounge
* classroom
* community garden
* job training

Any one of the above resources would better the lives of women, but combined, the center will truly be life changing for the women who become a part of the community.

More Information on the Dragon Valley Community Center:
Few places in the world are less hospitable to women than Dragon Valley. With a climate dominated by a frigid winter, and no central heat, plumbing or electricity in homes, women rarely if ever manage a reprieve from grueling household chores and childrearing. Work for income is rarely an option. A life expectancy of 46 is far too easy to imagine for women in this village cradled by the northern mountains of Afghanistan.

For a growing number of area women, however, the nonprofit Arzu, which means “hope” in Dari, has delivered opportunity by revitalizing the ancient art of rug weaving. Many women had the skills but no looms or quality wool. Arzu delivered both, cultivated a market for the beautiful rugs in the United States and beyond, and in addition to a generous wage that could be earned from home, provided desperately needed health care and education opportunities for rug weavers and their families. Now, Arzu will increase work opportunities and address quality of life issues for local women through construction of the Dragon Valley Community Center.

Beginning in November, rug weavers, many of them widows, will have access to a warm, safe facility where they can take classes, do laundry, bathe, use a flush toilet, collaborate with other weavers in a bright, spacious loom room or just sit for a moment in a chair and sip a hot cup of tea. For the women of Dragon Valley, these are unimaginable luxuries. The Community Center will give women who are among the poorest in the world a sense of value and will provide the chance to improve their weaving skills or train for additional life-changing job opportunities.

Video on Afghan Widows

Please take a moment to view this heartwrenching video about the lives of widows in Afghanistan. I think it sums up why we at Beyond the 11th continue to work so hard for these women.

http://video.nytimes.com/video/2009/04/15/world/1194839517084/a-mans-world.html?emc=eta1

Thursday, May 14, 2009

Temple Emanuel

Last night, I had the opportunity to speak to the sisterhood at Temple Emanuel in Andover, MA. What a fabulous evening! The turnout was phenomenal - about 150 women. Many in the group had seen the documentary, Beyond Belief which made for a great Q & A.

No matter how many times I tell my story and explain why Beyond the 11th is so important I still tend to get emotional. The group of women made it a really safe environment though which enabled me to share a lot.

I can't say enough great things about the incredible women I met last night. I hope that the many offers to help truly work out to be long lasting relationships...

Thursday, May 7, 2009

I've heard from Sahera!

Beth has retunred home from Afghanistan safely and brought with her a DVD of her meeting with Sahera. During their hour long conversation, Beth was able to get a pretty good update on how Sahera has been over the past 3 years. Bascially, it seems like all is good. Her children are all in school. Her eldest son is thinking about going to college. It was unclear to me if it was a money issue or a distance issue that has kept him from attending but I will investigate that further.

Sahera is no longer a part of the poultry rearing program. She actually sold her chickens after some of them had gotten sick. With the money from the chickens, she started a small tailoring business. It seems as if she has been pretty successful.

I also learned that Sahera's mother-in-law passed away a couple of years ago. For those of you who saw Beyond Belief, she was the woman who had lost 6 sons to war and illness. Since her mother-in-law died, Sahera no longer wears a burqa! I believe Sahera felt pressure from her to wear it.

During Beth's visit, she showed Sahera the video that I had made and Sahera spoke directly to me at one point. It was truly amazing to have an opportunity to see Sahera again - even if it wasn't real time.

The next time Sahera and I communicate, it might just be via phone. I've been told that she has a cell phone - yeah!!!

Tuesday, April 21, 2009

September 12th Bike Ride - Fundraiser


Beyond the 11th is thinking about holding a fundraiser this Saturday, September 12th. It will be a one day bike ride with two options - 100 and 50 miles. We are also considering having a kids ride of maybe 5 or 10 miles.


Why are we doing the fundraiser? We are very interested in making a grant to Arzu for a women's community center that they are building in Bamiyan. In order to help in a significant way, we need to raise $50,000. I promise to share much more information on this amazing project in the weeks to come.


If anyone is interested in riding or volunteering, please let me know. Thanks!

Tuesday, April 7, 2009

NEW YORK TIMES ---- Karzai Vows to Review Family Law By CARLOTTA GALL and SANGAR RAHIMI Published: April 4, 2009

Kabul, Afghanistan — President Hamid Karzai ordered a review on Saturday of a new law that has been criticized internationally for introducing Taliban-era restrictions on women and sanctioning maritalrape. The president defended the law, which concerns family law for the Shiite minority, and said Western news media reports were misinformed. Nevertheless, he said his justice minister would review it and make amendments if the law was found to contravene the Constitution and the freedoms that it guarantees. “The Western media have either mistranslated or taken incorrect information and then published it,” Mr. Karzai said at a news briefing in the presidential palace on Saturday. “If there is anything in contradiction with our Constitution or Shariah, or freedoms granted by the Constitution, we will take action in close consultation with the clerics of the country. ”If changes are needed, he said, the bill would be sent back to Parliament. Human rights officials have criticized the law, in particular for the restrictions it places on when a woman can leave her house, and forstating the circumstances in which she has to have sex with her husband. A Shiite woman would be allowed to leave home only “for a legitimate purpose,” which the law does not define. The law also says, “Unless the wife is ill, the wife is bound to give a positive response to the sexual desires of her husband.” Critics have said that provision legalizes marital rape. The law also outlines rules on divorce, child custody and marriage,all in ways that discriminate against women, said Soraya Sobhrang,commissioner for women’s rights at the Afghan Independent Human Rights Commission. While the law applies only to Shiites, who represent approximately 10 percent of the population, its passage could influence a proposed family law for the Sunni majority and a draft law on violence against women, Ms. Sobhrang said. “This opens the way for more discrimination,” she said.Mr. Karzai signed the law last week after a vote in Parliament last month, Ms. Sobhrang said, adding that she had seen a copy of the law with his signature. However, the presidential spokesman, Homayun Hamidzada, would notconfirm that the president had signed the law and said only that thehe was still reviewing it. Mr. Karzai’s decision to review the law came after a storm of criticism in recent days. Canada called in the Afghan ambassador for an explanation, and NATO’s secretary general questioned why the alliance was sending men and women to fight in Afghanistan when discrimination against women was condoned by law. Asked about the law at a news conference in Strasbourg, France, on Saturday, President Obama called it “abhorrent.” “We think that it is very important for us to be sensitive to local culture,” he said, “but we also think that there are certain basic principles that all nations should uphold, and respect for women and respect for their freedom and integrity is an important principle. ”Also on Saturday, Italy’s defense minister said Italy was consideringa temporary withdrawal of the women serving in its force in Afghanistan to protest the law, Reuters reported. The United Nations high commissioner for human rights, Navi Pillay,said the law represented a “huge step in the wrong direction.” “For a new law in 2009 to target women in this way is extraordinary,reprehensible and reminiscent of the decrees made by the Taliban regime in Afghanistan in the 1990s,” Ms. Pillay said in a statement posted on her agency’s Web site. “This is another clear indication that the human rights situation in Afghanistan is getting worse, not better. ”In addition to the clauses on when women may leave the home and must submit to their husbands, Ms. Pillay said she was concerned about a section that forbids women from working or receiving education without their husband‘s permission. Ms. Sobhrang, who has been working on the issue for the last two years, said women’s groups and the human rights commissions had worked with Parliament to introduce amendments but then the law was suddenly pushed through with only three amendments. The bill as originallydrawn up by Shiite clerics barred a woman from leaving the house without her husband’s permission, she said. The parliamentary judicial commission amended that provision to say that a woman could leave the house “for a legitimate purpose. ”Mr. Karzai cited that provision in a news conference on Saturday, pointing out that the final version of the law did not ban a woman from leaving her house. But Ms. Sobhrang said even as amended the law contravened the Constitution, which recognizes equal rights for men and women. The term “for a legitimate purpose” was open to interpretation, she added. She said Mr. Karzai had supported women’s rights in the past but seemed to have given that up in recent months. Some Western officials have speculated that he signed the law to win the support of conservative Shiite clerics in coming presidential elections. Yet the leading cleric behind the Family Law, Sheik Muhammad Asif Mohseni, complained last week that he was dissatisfied with the amendments that Parliament had made to his original draft. Speaking on his own television channel, Tamadun Television, he objected to the introduction of a legal age for marriage, “16 for women and 18 for men,” saying that people should be able to decide for themselves. Human rights officials consider raising the marriage age a critical step toward ending the common practice of forced marriages and the marriage of young girls. Another amendment gave women longer custody of young children in the case of divorce. In the original draft, women could have custody of a son until he was 2 years old, and a daughter until she was 7. The amended version raises the ages to 7 for boys and 9 for girls. Ms. Sobhrang criticized both versions for not taking into account the interests and desires of the children.

Thursday, April 2, 2009

Where is the OUTRAGE?

Afghanistan's current constitution guarantees women's equal rights, but also allows a separate Shia family law based on religious traditions. A new law just recently passed by parliament and signed by President Hamid Karzai, legalizes minority Shi'ite family law and what was passed is shocking!
Please read the attached article(s) to learn more.

http://www.reuters.com/article/asiaCrisis/idUSL2330877

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,511860,00.html

Where is the OUTRAGE? Is this 2009 or 1999? Didn’t the United States invade Afghanistan to overthrow the Taliban and stop the war on terror? When a woman is stripped of basic human rights – that is terror! If here in the United States, women had to receive permission from their husbands before leaving the house – there would be outrage. If girls as young as 9 years old were allowed to be married off – there would be outrage. If husbands had the RIGHT to have sex with their wives whenever they want (we call that rape here in the United States) – there would be outrage.
Where is the outrage?
Is the U.S. government going to back President Karzai? Is he really the right person to be leading Afghanistan? If he is going to sign laws to please the Shia JUST for votes – I say let’s get another candidate!

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My husband, David, was killed on September 11th. At the time, we had two small children and I was pregnant with our third. Learning about the plight of widows in Afghanistan, I felt that I needed to reach out to them the way so many had reached out to me and my family. Decades of conflict and strife ravaged Afghanistan, leaving tens of thousands of women without husbands to provide for them, a cultural necessity in Afghanistan. In the fall of 2003, I co-founded Beyond the 11th. Our mission is to help provide financial and emotional support to Afghan widows and their children and to give them hope for a better future. Beyond the 11th’s grants are geared toward programs that help widows gain the skills necessary to generate their own income. We believe strongly that this is the best way to create lasting social change.